With the holiday’s quickly approaching, many of us will be on the receiving end of a gorgeous invitation beckoning us to a fabulous event. We’ve found the perfect dress, treated ourselves to a sparkling manicure and have chosen a tasteful hostess gift. But, something important is missing…hmmm, what could that be? That’s right!! …the all important R.S.V.P.!
It is becoming the norm NOT to respond to an invitation at all even when a response is clearly (and desperately) requested. The lack of a response can create several challenges for your host including difficulty in planning for the food or bar, the all important party favors or the seating arrangements.
So, what does R.S.V.P. mean exactly? The oh so proper French created this acronym meaning “Repondez s’il vous plait”, a phrase that translates to “reply if you please”. You may also come across “please respond”, “regrets only” or any number of other requests for a reply. No matter the wording, please do your host a favor, and REPLY! If you receive an invitation that does not ask for a response, please do so anyway. It is polite to accept or decline all invitations.
The most proper way of replying to an event is in writing. However, it is also appropriate to reply in the same manner that the invitation was sent. If you are not sure if you are able to attend an event, or, perhaps you just want to reserve a Saturday night for p.j.’s and popcorn, please do not leave your host hanging. A simple response stating “thank you for the invitation, however, I am afraid that I am not able to attend” is all that is required. Do not feel obligated to explain why you cannot attend the event.
So, this holiday season, enjoy the many chances to celebrate with friends and family, but, PLEASE remember the all important R.S.V.P.!